Never go to bed angry

Sleep and emotions connected:

Research has shown that going to sleep depending on emotional stages does cause changes of the sleeping ways. Experimenting with 100 odd people by showing them pictures be it neutral, negative or positive. Around 12 hours later, or the next morning, they see the difference between with a positive emotion to neutral and negative to measure their brain activity by looking at the rapid eye movement. Or when they sleep, it shows that the brain, due to the emotional state, brings out memories or experiences that have been preserved of the same emotion in a dream. So they say sleeping when you are angry is one reason why many people having restless nights, or sleepless nights. Adding to that, sleep also increases the emotional state of memories.

Reading this, I realize that there are time when I fall asleep angry or with a negative mood, I don't usually sleep as well as I would. For me, sleeping is something I love to do, so if I am going to be angry when I am about to sleep, I usually start to think of something positive to change my mind. I would never really think that due to the happens of my emotions, my brain would bring out memories of which resemble my emotions when I went to sleep. I always thought that it is what you think about last is what causes your dreams to come out as what they are. Well I guess that was the same thing. But if my negative emotion before going to bed is going to give a restless night, then I guess now I would be trying to sleep in a positive emotion.

Vocab:

Adage

a) a short statement expressing a general truth

b.i) "Regardless of its origin, the adage has been scarcely researched."

ii) origin Latin

c) When told the adage, Missy went into depression, although was happy that she knew the truth.

Traumatic

a) an emotionally disturbed

b.i) "--for instance, after seeing an unsettling image of an accident or traumatic scene."

ii) origin UK

c) Although been through a traumatic scene, Missy decided to start fresh and try to keep aside the recent happenings.

Killed for giving a baby girl

Afghan women is killed for giving birth to a baby girl

In Afghanistan, have a baby boy calls for celebration, yet having a girl is usually seen as a burden to parents. A women from North-Eastern Afghanistan has been arrested for killing her daughter-in-law for not giving a son, but three daughters consecutively. The killed husband now has fled as he was suspected for helping out for the murder. The officials being told that the mother-in-law tied up her legs while the husband strangled her to death. Neighbors say that she lived in hell, and that her husband was an illegal militia who was armed. The wife also told him to lay low and not to go out with thugs, but he never listened.

With stories like this going around in the news, it pains me to see that having baby boys are more important than females, even to many of the mother's or mother-in-laws's. It pains me even more to see that women die due to not giving a boy as a child. I mean, is this really how a female should be living. So what if you have a girl? If you keep killing people for having females, and if only males were in the society, how were you planning to get more babies? Being a girl is not a bad things, sure it has more complications than men in the bodily functions, or lesser power, but we can come to use in ways that men wouldn't. It is sad to see that men in Afghanistan already don't see women equally, but also that they join forces with their mothers to get rid of them because of no male heir to the family. But I guess for many people, this is something that normal, treating females like dirt.

Vocab:

Militia:

a) He is thought to be a fighter with an illegal armed militia which is believed to have some political support.

b.i) a military force composed of ordinary citizens

ii) originated from Great Britain

c) George, although having no enhanced skill in combat, he was part of the militia in the U.S.

Extortion:

a) They have often been accused of violence against women, robberies and extortion.

b.i) obtaining somethings (mainly money) by force (violence)

ii) Originates from Latin

c) He extorted the money and jewelry out of her and left her hurt and bleeding on the floor.

Women in pants and miniskirts stripped naked.

Malawian Women protest due to the attacks for wearing pants and miniskirts.

Stripped out of their clothes due to not following tradition, how many people even do that now? Many Malawian women were stripped naked by the men due to not following the tradition of them wearing dresses, and instead wearing clothes such as pants, miniskirts or leggings. Due to this mishap, many of the women protested against this, wearing legging, pants, skirts, T-shirts, and other forms of clothes. Meeting in closed in places and ordering out the protests, these protests have gone to the nation's leader, and has ordered to arrest anyone who is attacking a women due to what she is wearing. As being a democracy, the law of wearing miniskirts and others that was banned, has been laid out again saying that women have the rights to wear what they feel like since the year of 1994.

Men might be the tougher gender, but they need to realize that putting down the females is not going to get our respect as we have the same emotions as they do. Stripping down someone for not following their traditions is not the right thing to do. Yes, tradition is meant to be kept, but if you try to live in today's world, and keep tradition going along with it, you just might be left behind in society. Also, being a country that is supposed to be lead by the people, they should have the rights to what they want to wear, and adding to that saying that the banning of pants etc. was demolished, the men had no rights to strip the women down naked and say they are not following tradition. I believe that the President, Bingu wa Murtharika, made a wise move towards a new way of thinking and getting more rights to the women to do what they please like by getting the attackers arrested.

Vocab:

Perpetrators

a) "...warned the perpetrators to stop the attacks, saying women have a right to wear what they want.

b.i) performing an act with usually a negative meaning.

ii) originates from the language Latin

c) The child lay on the ground as the perpetrators were laughing like maniacs pointing at him.

Disparities

a) "...but disparities remain in almost all aspects including education."

b.i) lack of equality

ii) Originated from Latin

c) The disparities among the people all over the world causes many to start believing in many things they never did, and in their own ways.

Graduation of the Congolese Women Sexual Harassment Survival Class

Congolese Women:

A program called City of Joy, in Congo, gets together women from all over the country who are victims of sexual harassment. This is a program that supports the ending of violence of women and girls globally. This program helps the women in Congo (180 in this matter) to get through their disappointing and hardships through giving them sex education, therapies, dance tutorials, drama/theater, and also some form of self defense. With this, many women who come to this program in the beginning look like their life is over, leave the place with their past as a form of power to change the ways of the country. Congo being a nation with United Nations, there have been no ways of stopping the amount of women being sexually harassed, 48 per hour in this matter.

I believe that the ending of sexual harassment for women is no where towards the end, so I guess something like what the program of City of Joy is accomplishing has done something for the girls and women that were raped. Taking advantage of such people does make me feel rather disgusted. I believe that the City of Joy program allows women to stand up to their beliefs, it brings out the strength in them. Being raped is (for obvious reasons) not a pleasant thing, also allowing many to go into depression and many to even die. But for the people who survive, their lives take another turn. I believe that City of Joy may or may not get people to change their views for the better, as the "women have moved from pain to power... [and are] ready to help revolutionize their communities." So I believe people should also start to look at the right side, and do the right thing.

Vocab:

Assailants

a) "--have faced brutal rapes for years, with the assailants thrusting chunks of wood and guns into them in some cases."

b.i) a person who attacks another

ii) The origin of the word is from the time period of 1500's from Frances, coming out of the word assail from England. The original word means assault, as now it is more broad.

c) Being a indiscreet assailant, he was caught red handed getting out of the apartment by the neighbors.

Despair

a)"Upon their arrival, the faces of these women showed signs of despair, discouragement and loneliness"

b.i) lose all hope or confidence

ii) Origins from the words of des: without and sperare: to hope, started in the 14th century.

c) The Despair showed in her eyes when she dropped on her knees, made me feel guilty of the sin I had done.

Describe your favorite time of the day.

It is weird, for some their favorite time of the day can mean something totally different from someone else, and for some maybe the same. For me, it is when I am in the shower. This may be weird for some people, but I love water. Yes, I admit, when I was small, I hated going into showers, made me feel what the point in showering is, but now when I shower, I feel so happy, so satisfied, and so clean. There are times in a day when I take more than two showers a day. My Grandfather used to say, the morning shower is of milk, the afternoon of water, and the night on blood. If you are superstitious, you would understand this saying. Taking morning showers is like milk because it refreshes you, the afternoon of water as a rejuvenation of mind body and soul, and at night of blood because that’s when the evil spirits can take over your soul. Although he said this, I never really paid attention to it, even though being extremely scared of ghosts, I still took showers whenever I felt like, be it night or throughout the day. I love showers because every time I am in one, I feel like I am in my own world. I start to think over things, things I usually would really care about in my daily life. Then again, I would start to play with the water, make bubbles, or even splash water around. I feel as though I’m a little kid all over again. There are times also when I just stand and soak in the warmth emitting from the hot water spraying out during winters, and the cool, yet slightly warm, water during the summers. Making me feel clean all over, I feel as though I’m ready to take on the world, even though I never do.

Ten Simple rules for dating me…

Ten Simple rules for dating me…
1) You should be yourself around me. There are many times when people change the way they act due to nervousness, or suddenly become really conscious of themselves, but for me, just be yourself, because most probably that is why I fell for you
2) You should be fun. Yes, so maybe when we weren’t dating, you were fun, and did the craziest things on earth, I want that to continue. I would want you to be fun and not think too much on what she might say or something like that, because that is most probably another trait why I fell for you.
3) There should be a mutual understanding of what we were doing. Many times the guy or the girl gets angry at the other for doing something that was misunderstood by the other. We should not go into misconceptions before understanding, or even knowing the truth.
4) Trust. Trust plays a big role in a relationship, so there should be trust in the relationship. Firstly you have to gain my trust and vice versa, and you should try not to break it, because it will break once in a while, maybe even from my side.
5) Be active. Being active should be a trait of his because it is no fun if he is not running around and not having fun. He should play sports, play sports that I hate so that he can change my perspective of it.
6) He should understand when I want to be alone, when I want to stay by myself to think, or do something that doesn’t involve him.
7) He should understand that he is important in my life, but also my friends are too. Yes, I have guy friends, and he needs to understand that I WILL spend time with them too.
8) There should be a romantic side to him too, and for that I’ll leave it up to his imaginations
9) He can believe in the stereotypes of females in the kitchen etc. but he should not really imply it.
10) Last but not least, he should have some respect, be it for anyone, but there should be some there.

Yeah, so this maybe to much to ask, but he doesn't have to have all the qualities, but most would be good, because there just might not be someone who is like this.

Attach a small photograph of something important to you and explain its significance. (Stanford

This picture is a great significance to me as it shows to me something many people might, or might not see, friendship. TO many, it might show how creepy some people will find It shows me that friendship come in many ways, even if it is really weird. It comes in different forms, in different times, and in different, well, faces. This picture explains that friendship doesn't always come from always looking at each other, you just got to know that person. This picture shows that without even looking at a friend, you know what he or she is up to. Life goes on, and there are only a few friends that know you inside out, and those are the friends to cherish, even if they are weird as hell. There are a few friends who will understand you for who you are, be it crazy, weird or even a little bit more hyper than others, as the picture portrays. There are only a few people in this world that will make your life something that someone else would not. There will be many up’s and down’s in the world, and someone like the owl in the back will make you mad, but in the end will end up to make your life easier, which you would not have realized or even thought of before. There will be times when a person will make you so mad, that you would want to kill him/her/it. Although this happens, it will be hard to give up someone who you know for so long to know what they are doing without looking at them. So what if yours and your friends relationship would be different, would be something that a person would not understand, as long as you know each other, and you will be able to live barely without killing each other, you have got nothing to worry about.

1. Imagine that you have the opportunity to travel back through time. At what point in history would you like to stop and why? (Swarthmore)

There are many times during my life when I wish I could go back and stop, many times when I want to stop time so I could live in the moment forever, but as we know, time never does stop, and so it is best to seize every moment as the perfect one. Although yes I say this, I would love to go back many years, the years when I was with my grandfather. I want to seize that moment with my grandfather again, as he showed me different dance moves, which I was never able to learn, those days when we argued about the smallest things (just for fun) and I would lose the argument hands down. I would love to go back in time to be with my grandfather again. I would want to go back in time when I would just sit on his lap and he would tell me stories; stories about life, his life, or about the most random thing on earth. There are times when I think about him all the time, but then realize that why didn't I spend more time with him? I guess people just come and go, and all happen for a reason. I would want to go back in to time when I could just run into his arms and see his smiling then laughing face he always had. I wish I could go back to the days when I would be making so much noise and he would call out to punish me, and the only "punishment" I got was him telling me to be quite or else I would not get my chocolate> i wish I could go back into those times when my grandfather was here, and I could call him up whenever and talk to him. yes, so this may not be the history in history books, but it is part of a beautiful history in my life.